小肉包正式進入 terrible two 的階段 (之前的胡鬧都還只是前戲而已). 最近他變本加厲, 不但常常咬弟弟或搶弟弟的奶嘴, 還會跟爸爸媽媽唱反調. 叫他不要在媽咪煮飯的時候進廚房他偏要, 爐子上有東西在煮他小手還要去轉瓦斯的開關; 叫他吃飯要坐好不能看電視他也偏要, 硬把電視關掉他就耍賴大哭大叫. 總之爸爸媽媽或褓母阿姨不許他做的事, 他就一定要去做, 很多事情我不讓他做是覺得危險, 另外也不希望他去傷到弟弟.
到底該不該體罰他呢? 希望聽聽大家能投票表示意見, 有時間的話更希望不只投票, 也能留言分享你們的親身經驗.
Should we punish Hasan when he misbehaves? Please vote and/or leave your comment to share your experience.
I vote for yes and that's what Lele got when she is cranky. I usually lock her in her room for five minutes!
ReplyDeleteI vote for NO and absolutely NO...Just disengage him from what he was doing and give him some time to chill down (time him out).
ReplyDelete你動了手,對小孩來說是 send out a strong message that it's okay to do the same to others. 許多日後在學校動手的小朋友家裡都有動手的紀錄.
不動手的路雖然要一次一次提醒,花很長的時間,但是有絶對的好處.內化的遵守規定比外化的"不想被處罰"走的更長.
一但開啟打的教育,孩子就會愈打愈皮.一次比一次更難教育. just my two cents.
學妹,介紹你一本書 love and logic for early childhood. Hope it helps.
ReplyDeleteChildren do not know how to misbehave, what they're trying to to is to communicate their needs. Hassan is only two and that's how a two year old learns from the environment around him. He is probably getting into everything because he is curious. A word for the parents, have you guys ever thought to go and take parenting classes? Hope it will help you.
ReplyDeleteI vote for no, since kids might just resent you rather than learning their faults. Even if there is physical punishment, explain to them what they did wrong afterward.
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